Ok so you are depressed because your idea to translate your talent into a business has flunked big time. And you have just discovered you are ill equipped for the task ahead so you feel like quitting.
We have all and I mean ALL felt like that that at some point. It is perfectly normal and rest assured contrary to what you may believe at this point, you are absolutely not losing your mind. Remember you are choosing to take the idea that was once only a daydream and create it in the real world. This is not a small task. Huge congratulations for starting. But how do you keep going when you just feel like quitting?
1. Remember The Bigger Goal
Yes, I know it feels impossible but that is beside the point. You’ve decided to start this business for a reason. Who are you looking to help? Why do you want to help them? What do you enjoy about working with your clients? The difficulty with being neck deep in the detail is you forget why you are doing it all in the first place.
2. Stop Over-Complicating Things
At this juncture, I’m going to share a true story with you. I love dancing and am particularly fond of throwing some shapes (gosh that is so, something a grandparent would say). However, I hadn’t been out dancing for years because night clubs drive me insane. Plus they don’t play the music I particularly love (throwback 90’s RnB and Dance Music).
So I thought, I know what I’ll do I’ll create an event I’d love to be at so I can enjoy myself. The more I thought about it the idea expanded from a small venue with close friends and an iPod to a full blown Halloween party club night with ticket sales the lot! Long story short, I lost total focus on the bigger picture (an event for me to enjoy myself with friends) and got stressed and annoyed promoting tickets for an event. It’s the first time I lost money on any event and I did it in style.
Fortunately, someone had the sanity to remind me why I had started it in the first place. I re-focused on why I started it and regardless of the embarrassingly poor ticket sales I had a phenomenal time! Why do I share this story? Because, it’s easy to start to focus on something which is actually a distraction from your goal. In truth, I only really needed a small venue, an iPod and some friends and I could have had just as much fun with a fraction of the stress. It’s easy to want to leap to step 500 when you’ve barely approached step 1.
3. Look at How Far You Have Come?
Write down all your achievements in the last 6 months. When you are busy focused on the to-do list it can be easy to take for granted how much you have learned and how much the business has grown.
It’s useful to do this list when things are going very smoothly and to refer back to it when you feel like you might be slipping into a depressed state. I’ll sometimes watch video footage of me and be shocked that I have managed to have the wins I have. Looking at some of your early work and comparing it to where you are now can give you a real boost and revived enthusiasm for what you do.
4. Acknowledge The Emotion
Nobody wants to feel upset. The temptation can be to suppress the negative emotions and push forward. But it’s like a 2-year-old, ignoring them does not make them go away, in fact, it makes them louder. Plus, it’s not healthy. Instead, and yes this can be difficult, acknowledge that you are feeling depressed or restless or disengaged and love yourself anyway.>/h4>
5. One Step At a Time
Dvery mountain summit is reached on step at a time. Every large meal completed one bite at a time. And every business built one action at a time. Remind yourself that you just need to keep taking action. Take every large task which you are struggling to move forward and simply work out the next direct and obvious action. You are inventive you should be able to come up with a few possibilities. Select the one you feel most instinctively drawn to.
Nobody wants to feel upset. The temptation can be to suppress the negative emotions and push forward. But it’s like a 2-year-old, ignoring them does not make them go away, in fact, it makes them louder. Plus, it’s not healthy.
Instead, and yes this can be difficult, acknowledge that you are feeling depressed or restless or disengaged and love yourself anyway.